While the focus of Your Child and Divorce is around the child and how to give them a healthy upbringing, it is important not to ignore the environment that you are creating for yourself. Your ex-spouse will play a role in your life for the rest of your life. They will continue to participate in raising your child with you, they will be there for the major events in your child's life, and you will have conversations with them on an ongoing basis. As a result, your ex-spouse will be a part of your life for the rest of your life.
How these interactions are handled is entirely up to you. They can be amicable and cordial, as they should be, or they can be filled with anger and frustration. Do not fool yourself. Argumentative and spiteful exchanges with your ex-spouse can have a tremendously negative impact on your life. They are emotionally draining and will hinder you from achieving the happiness that you seek and deserve following a divorce.
The guidelines offered in Your Child and Divorce are just as beneficial to the parent in that they help to lay the foundation for a new parenting relationship by outlining how to avoid many of the pitfalls that result in arguments between ex-spouses. Instead, you are able to focus on the necessary and relevant parts of the parenting relationship.
In the end, Your Child and Divorce is oriented not just towards your child's happiness, but your own.